It’s been about five years now that I’ve been keeping a handwritten journal. In the last few years I’ve become consistent with it. And in the last two years I’ve become downright religious about it, building up a habit where writing each morning has become automatic. I look forward to it.
Recently, I’ve been writing the date in Thai and Norwegian because those are two languages I’m working on learning and/ or improving. So it’s become an opportunity to learn and improve in those arenas. The hope is that after a year of doing this everyday, at least the days of the week and the months of the year are locked into my memory. I find something intensely satisfying about breaking large, seemingly impossible endeavors (such as learning a language) into smaller and smaller, very possible tasks.
I write by hand. I also find this intensely satisfying. It slows me down but at the same time, I rarely if ever cross things out. What comes out on the page, comes out on the page. It’s unlike typing in the way. In this paragraph alone, I’ve probably hit the delete key at least two dozen times to fix errors or change words. But there’s a certain amount of acceptance that comes with writing by hand. I often just write an ellipses or even “I don’t know” or “ugh.” And that stands. I don’t really look back at the previous entries even though it would be east enough to do so. Perhaps some day I will. And I hope that what I see is how far I’ve come.
For most of my life, I wasn’t comfortable with writing in a journal. I had a few experiences when I was younger when someone else read my journals. The reactions made me feel like it wasn’t a good idea for me to write down my thoughts, ideas, feelings, and experiences. All those missed years of those writing make me sad. But they don’t detract from the writing in my journal that I do now. In fact, it probably makes me more grateful that I have this ritual now.
I write about what’s on my mind and things that are bothering me. And in writing about them, they bother me less. My problems feel smaller, more manageable when I can put them into words on a page. Sometimes I even come to some sort of solution or even just a new way of looking at situations.
I get to know myself through the pages of my journal. And what I’m finding is that I’m a very reliable person, for myself at least, which is the most important thing. I return to my journal pages every morning and sometimes through the day. And I always find a steadiness. Consistency. I’m always here for myself. And even when I don’t have an answer, I listen well and deeply to myself.
Rhena Writes 